When Parents too hard on Child

Parents want the best for their children. They oft dream of their children attending the best of universities and then securing a most respectable job in modern society.
They work and earn so they can care for their child.
While a secure and happy family environment is considered a bare necessity for healthy growth and development, there is a fine line between caring and caring too much. Parental pressure has led to the most horrible scenarios.
Adding to the pressure on students, considered the future, are those parents whom place mountains of responsibility on their children. One can only imagine what the child goes through.
Many parents want their children to be the star of the class, the top of the school. This is not wrong in that we must aim high to reach our utmost potential but there is, however, a saying that "a chicken can run, canoodle, play and eat. It can enjoy the time it lives. When it tries to fly, though, it will only disappoint itself".
When students are burdened with such high expectations, good intentions go astray. Children are expected to score high in order to make their parents proud. But what happens when they are crushed by overly high expectations and are unable to achieve? In this new era, a parent can keep track of their child’s academic results, assignments, levels and reports. Some parents obsess over these scores so much that the need for their child to achieve the top score overtakes all else. Parental pressure leads to stress and anxiety. The child always has their nose in books, is stressed, and faces anxiety and fears failing.
Such high expectations and pressure may also cause the child to suffer blood pressure problems. They may feel increasingly tired and detached.

They will not win at everything and they will not always score well. This brings disappointment, leads to low self-esteem and poor self-image.

Parents tend to goad their children into becoming all-rounders and children often end up as victims rather than success stories.

Parents Work to Destroy Their Child’s Future Success😟😟😟😟😟😟😟

 

1. Not Paying Enough Attention:😢

The biggest regret parents in a study, have regarding their children early years was spending too much time at work.
Other regrets include: Spending too much time away from them, not playing with them more, among others.
Another research from Boston Medical Center also found out that Parents on Smartphones tend to ignore their kids.
Some parents pay little or no attention to their children. Some parents are so busy building careers and making money, that they totally neglect and ignore their children. They leave the care of their children to house help and nannies, who in most cases has no idea of how to properly bring up children.
Leaving children to the care of nannies and house helps in their most delicate stage (childhood) is an immense mistake that several parents make.
Most of these children grow up without proper guidance and direction and they have to learn about behaviors from their peers and the immediate environment.
The bad news is that most of these behaviors learned from peers and the immediate environment are more often than not, negative behaviors that go a long way to negatively affect the children later in life.

2. Thinking A Strict Religion Will Give Children Perfect Values:😟

Many people pray to God to do for them what they can do for themselves. Many parents believe that committing their children to God in prayer every day is enough for them to grow up morally.
But the truth is that children need more than prayers and religious involvement to grow up to become responsible adults.
Several sources have revealed that most pastors’ children have problems with depression, while most of them often walk away from the faith.
Too much religious activities only help to get the children pretend to be good, but as soon as they get the opportunity, especially when they enter the university and become free of their parents, they become wild and wants to make up for all the fun they believed their parents has deprived them of.
When some parents see a child misbehaving, instead of taking deliberate actions to correct the child, they resort to fasting and praying to God to help them straighten their child.
Religious activities should be backed up by proper discipline and guidance to make a child to become a responsible adult in the future.

3. Withholding Common Information about Vital Topics — Like Sex:😞

A lot of parents have many reasons for not talking to their children about sex. They wrongly believe that talking about such sensitive topics with their children will corrupt them. Some old-school parents even consider such topics as taboo.
However, these behaviors have been proven to be a big mistake on their part because no matter what they do, the child will eventually get to learn about such sensitive subjects and most times, they get to learn it either from their peers or through personal experience.
According to a study, as reported by health day, Teens whose parents talk with them concerning sex are more likely to wait to have sex and to also make use of birth control and condoms when they finally do.
A lot of teenage pregnancy could have been prevented if the parents have taught them about sex, how to protect themselves and the negative consequences of engaging in sex before marriage.

 

4. Raising The Child We Want, Not The Child We Have:😓

All parents harbor dreams for their children. They even start before the child’s gender is even known. Secretly, they hope the children will be like them, only smarter and more gifted. They want to be their guide, putting their life experience to excellent use.
Many parents force a career path for their children, thereby making them abandon the career they have a natural flair and passion for.
There are different reasons why parents try to force a career on their children. Many parents strive to have their children to study medicine, law, Engineering or any other course they believe will make their child successful in future, even when it is obvious that the children have no zeal or passion for such courses.

Forcing dreams on children aren’t ideal and would only make them frustrated and make them mediocre in such jobs.
Only when parents see children for who they are and help them prepare towards that path can they impact their life effectively.

 

5. Forgetting Our Actions Speak Louder Than Words:😞

Some parents behave badly, but, expect perfect behavior from their children. A parent who fights, shouts, curses, smokes cigarettes, takes illicit drugs, drinks, or becomes physically aggressive should not expect his child to act like a saint.
Teaching one thing and doing another tells a child that you are insincere. It’s, in addition, makes your kid believe that the things you request them to do are not important.
By observing and imitating others, children learn ways of interacting socially. They learn proper and improper kinds of behaviors.
The examples set by adults, older siblings and children are the most powerful influences that shape a child’s behavior and manners.

6. Protecting Children from Failure:😟

No parent is happy to see their child miserable or frustrated. That’s the reason a lot of parents do all they can to protect their children from setbacks and failures. Always shielding a child from distress and failure is not a good idea.
If a child is not trained to accept failure, they will toil to handle stress when they become an adult.
A little disappointment can sometimes benefit your child – as long as you teach him how to cope with failure and how to bounce back from it.